Category: Expectations
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Optional vs. required vs. prohibited
Are you more likely to do something when it’s optional, required, or prohibited? Which frame of a task energizes you more? For example, what if the reading lists in English class weren’t framed with required reading—but completely optional ones? What if the descriptors were creative and interesting enough to get students to give it a…
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What went right?
The things that go wrong get the most attention. That makes sense, because somebody needs to correct them. The problem happens when the things that go wrong get all of the attention. You may even start to only notice things going wrong. Focus on the things that didn’t go wrong—the things that went right. When…
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The architect and the assignment
An architect takes in their latest assignment: to rescue a wealthy client’s plans gone wrong. The client has high hopes for it, and believes it has the potential to be a landmark and a part of their legacy. The main problem is there is very little time. She has two weeks to do it. In…
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There is no failure
When Virgil Abloh was planning his lecture at RISD, he decided that he was going to make a product on campus and that would be the subject of his talk. He would need to take this assignment in between all of his other prior commitments, such as leading his self-initiated fashion label Off White. He…
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When overdelivering fails
There’s a book entitled, “Overpromise and overdeliver.” The title is a good principle generally. As James Altucher explains, “Over-promise sets you apart from the people who under-promise. Over-deliver sets you apart from people who just delivered.” The principle breaks when overpromise or overdelivery puts you in a position to fail to deliver entirely. If it…
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Open up about your problems
When Ryan Leslie lost his million dollar court case in 2013, the government froze his bank accounts. He found this out when his payment for a breakfast sandwich at his local bodega was declined. In order for him to feel like he could retain control of his finances, he started doing business through a decentralized…
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Be somebody else’s good luck
My friend Peter recently wrote about the power of reaching out to two contacts—former clients, industry friends, other agencies, old friends, investors, etc.—per week. It’s clear to him that this is one of the most valuable things he could be doing for his businesses. He writes, “The network that brings us leads, talent, knowledge, and…
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Three ways of seeing reality
Coming to terms with reality, and working with it—not against it, or distorting it—is generally good advice. It’ll help you get to where you want to go. Here are three ways to discern between what’s real and what you are imagining (or desiring, stressing over, or overthinking): “Reality doesn’t need you to help operate it.”…
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“Impossible” may just be a problem you haven’t solved yet
One of my goals for this blog is to build up a queue of posts. Ideally, it’s maybe a month’s or season’s worth of posts. This queue makes publishing here every day much more relaxing, and I can experience less worry about falling behind a schedule (which has happened!). Until this week, that goal felt…