Category: Turning Stories
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Only boring people get bored
I have recently been staying with family. I grew up in a suburb outside of Toronto, and my family has stayed in the area, so I have a chance to see it with fresh eyes. It is surprising how much I didn’t know about the place. There are really beautiful libraries, like the Richmond Hill…
Herbert Lui
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Craft, not fame, makes your story worth telling
I’ve bought and flipped through a couple of memoirs lately from popular recording artists. Tens of millions of people stream their music on Spotify every month. It’s not surprising that traditional publishers would offer them book deals. What’s surprising, at least to me, is how boring they are. One artist seemed to put little effort…
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Three moments from writing this week
I write every day because it’s really fun. (That’s my competitive advantage!) Here are three moments that stuck out to me this week: While I was writing this post, there was a moment when I felt as if my brain was struck by a bolt of lightning, “There was something I read about this! It’s…
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Stop chasing positive outcomes, allow them to find you with an indirect approach
If you want to fall asleep, the worst way to do it is to try to force yourself to sleep. Instead, conventional advice is to count sheep. I like to imagine a mashup of my favorite TV shows. The idea is to think about something else, and sleep naturally follows. You don’t pursue sleep directly,…
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Don’t just support it, enjoy it
Good friends, communities, and families do more than just support each other. They enjoy being around each other and getting to know each other more. Everyone knows they don’t have to be there. That’s what makes it more special. When someone is “bringing the energy,” they are deciding not just to support a project, they…
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Doing difficult things with, and without, motivation
When I was a teenager, I started going to the gym for a lot of reasons. Namely, I wanted to get stronger. I also wanted to look more grown up. I was a 16-year-old teenager with the body of a 12-year-old and the face of a 10-year-old. My classmates thought I was cute, like their…
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Build your own supply chain, gain more control, do more work
If an author works with a traditional publisher, they’re using the publisher’s supply chain. They need their book proposal accepted by the publisher. The author needs to apply the publisher’s feedback, even if they don’t agree with it. The publisher will schedule the book’s launch, and the author will follow. The publisher will, hopefully, put…
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Skill mindset
Being happy is a skill. When you’re making a difficult decision, you can ask yourself this: In 1,000 parallel universes, which decision makes you happier in 999 of them? If the decision makes you only happier on the condition it turns out your way, then you need to consider what’s in your control, and the…
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Today, now
A sense of immediacy means doing something today, now. Not tomorrow, the day after, or someday. Not putting it on a to-do list or into a task management system. Not until you feel ready or confident. Today, now. Backlogs don’t exist. You can delete them. Clear your mind as well. Spontaneity is a driving force.…
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Progress happens between practice sessions
In response to my post on voluntary discomfort, marginalia_nu writes: I think expectations matter quite a lot. For example, when practicing a practical skill, the actual practice session itself will likely suck. Not only will you see no progress, you may even feel you’re going backwards. You’ll also get mentally and physically tired and quickly…
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