Category: Life
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Optionality cost
I talked to my parents last night, and my mom was telling me about how she thought about my book while she was practicing her nagomi art. It was an awesome feeling. Obviously, that conversation wouldn’t have happened if I didn’t write the book. And I almost didn’t. I’d wanted to write a book throughout…
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Since you’re here, you might as well…
Stick around longer and get to know people. Pick up the plastic bag that floated right in front of you. Try a new route. Stretch or do bodyweight workouts. Pet the dog. Take it all in for a couple of minutes, and notice what catches your interest. Pause the music and listen to what your…
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“I wish I did this earlier”
True progress can be measured by the number of times the words, “I wish I did this earlier,” tumble out of your mouth. Sometimes, these words come with a sense of regret at the time lost not having this in your life, or perhaps even stupidity at how easy this other way is. If only…
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Once, or every day
In the words of Andy Warhol, “Actually, I jade very quickly. Once is usually enough. Either once only, or every day. If you do something once it’s exciting, and if you do it every day it’s exciting. But if you do it, say, twice or just almost every day, it’s not good any more.”
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Permission to ship
It’s one day until I ship something new. 3 things on my mind, in the hopes that each balances the other two out: 1. “For 2 frickin’ years, I thought it’s too early to release my app because it’s clunky, buggy, it’s missing features, blah, blah, blah. No one would ever use it, right? I…
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You choose your game, then your game chooses you
This is part 3 in a series. You can start here, or with part 1 or part 2. When I was a kid a couple of friends and I decided to pretend to run a movie theater at the daycare we attended. We would roll up A4 papers diagonally to create popcorn containers, make signs…
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The trap and the truth
“What are your choices, if someone puts a gun to your head?” This is a question posed by senior partner Harvey Spector to his protege Mike Ross, two protagonists in Suits. Ross is explaining how a rival executive had coerced him to do something against Spector’s interest. “You do what they say, or they shoot…
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A new pair of glasses
In a delightful new essay, Derek Sivers makes the case that travel is best with young children. One of his points is the childlike sense of openness: Your child has no prejudices. This is my favorite part. I often go to places I’m biased against. Seeing them through my child’s unbiased perception, and interacting with…
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The non-essentials
Oliver Burkeman writes in The Imperfectionist: “In the strongest sense of the word “need”, you don’t really need to become more focused, or realise your creative potential, or be more patient with your kids. You wouldn’t spontaneously combust, or cause others to die, or be judged the moral equal of Vladimir Putin, if you never…
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Helping feels better when you want to help
Dr. Heidi Grant writes in Reinforcements: There’s an inherent paradox in asking someone for their help: while help freely and enthusiastically given makes the helper feel good, researchers have found that the emotional benefits of providing help to others disappear when people feel controlled—when they are instructed to help, when they believe that they should…