Category: Life
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Nice vs. kind
In Clear Thinking, Shane Parrish writes: Too often, the people we ask for feedback are kind but not nice. Kind people will tell you things a nice person will not. A kind person will tell you that you have spinach on your teeth. A nice person won’t because it’s uncomfortable. A kind person will tell…
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Three quotes on ordinariness
“We think that if only we get the big things right, everything will magically fall into place. If we choose to marry the right person, it’ll all be okay. If we choose the right career, we’ll be happy. If we pick the right investment, we’ll be rich. This wisdom is, at best, partially true. You…
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Positioning and patience
Maybe your positioning isn’t setting you up to be patient. There is a lot of power in focusing on the long-term. Jeff Bezos says to Wired: If everything you do needs to work on a three-year time horizon, then you’re competing against a lot of people. But if you’re willing to invest on a seven-year…
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Endurance
The ability to stick it out is criminally underrated. Not only will you outlast the competition, you will also gain an experience that demonstrates your ability—and bring it to the next thing you do.
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Never take offense that you have to negotiate
Here’s something I wish I knew a decade ago (or even just five years ago): This is the other huge mistake people make when they start negotiating. They take offense at what’s being offered because they feel it’s an unfair representation of what they’ve put in. Please understand this: negotiations are not personal. Again, I…
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Eigenzeit
While I’ve known about the concept of Eigenzeit for a couple of years, which Oliver Burkeman likens to, “the insight that meaningful productivity often comes not from hurrying things up but from letting them take the time they take,” working full-time at Figma has created an opportunity for me to actually practice it. I’ve often…
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To balance out overthinking, ask yourself, “How hard can it be?”
Recently, Acquired.fm asked Nvidia CEO Jensen Huang what company he would start today. Jensen says: “I wouldn’t do it, and the reason for that is really quite simple (ignoring the company that we would start—first of all, I’m not exactly sure). The reason why I wouldn’t do it—and it goes back to why it’s so…
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The point of taking notes isn’t to take notes, it’s to think more effectively
When I first started digitizing my paper notes, I was on the fence choosing between Roam and Notion. It felt like a paralyzing choice; if I made the wrong move now, I experienced this sense of fear that I’d eventually be bogged down by the legacy architecture. I ended up choosing Notion, and that was…
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Opportunities are earned
If someone takes a chance on you, or you’ve found yourself with an opportunity you’re not sure you deserve, the best thing you can do—for yourself, and the other party—is earn it. In 1998, Peyton Manning signed a $48 million contract with the Indiana Colts. “People ask me what I plan to do with my…
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For better video calls, play a soundtrack
Ali Abdaal writes in his newsletter: Whenever I’m on a Zoom call, I put my headphones or AirPods in. I then open up YouTube, and find an ambient soundtrack that I play at 5% volume (eg: Lord of the Rings ambience, Harry Potter ambience etc). This way, as I’m taking the call, there’s a soft,…