Category: Expectations
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Comfort zone
Going outside of your comfort zone is generally good advice. This usually means you’re pushing beyond what you expect of yourself, and what others expect of you. In the process, you’re improving your skills, building confidence, and changing what others realize you’re capable of. All of this will inevitably open up new opportunities for you.…
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Dreams vs. delusions
A dream coming true is a delusion that becomes reality. A delusion is a dream that didn’t become a physical reality. (Yet!) If your delusion or dream comes true, you’ll look like a genius. Until it does though, you will experience a degree of loneliness. In other words, you can and should expect to be…
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When happiness happens
You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life. Albert Camus HAPPINESS.—A butterfly, which when pursued, seems always just beyond your grasp, but if you sit down quietly may alight upon you. New Orleans Crescent
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A technique if you can’t figure out what you want
One of the more challenging questions you may come across is, “What do you want?” In The Alter Ego Effect, Todd Herman shares a powerful prompt: I leaned back in my chair, waiting for Michael, a fairly successful real estate professional, to answer my question: “What do you want?” He looked pained, like he couldn’t…
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Friendship and creative work
Rebecca Morrison asks, “What do you do when your family doesn’t believe in or even understand your writing dreams?” It’s natural for you to express your frustrations, angst, and fears with your family and friends. They’ll do the same to you, because you’re close. You can let your guard down around them and be yourself,…
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Tell people what you want to do, and it just might happen
Tom Critchlow recently published his list of dream clients, and how he believed he could add value to them. (The post started as a thread, which itself was a response to this prompt.) It wouldn’t surprise me at all if some of these came to fruition. (In fact, I’m expecting that to happen.) Tom’s thoughtfulness,…
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Zen longcutting
A Zen student went to a temple and asked how long it would take him to gain enlightenment if he joined the temple. “10 years,” said the Zen master. “Well, how about if I really work hard and double my effort?” “In that case, 20 years.” See also “Why trying too hard can backfire.”
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Intelligence, energy, and integrity
In Working Together, Michael Eisner and Aaron Cohen share the traits that Warren Buffett looks for in a partner: “You’re looking for three things, generally, in a person,” says Buffett. “Intelligence, energy, and integrity. And if they don’t have the last one, don’t even bother with the first two. I tell them, ‘Everyone here has…
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Just write
“I don’t get inspired to write. I just write.” Salman Rushdie (via Backable by Suneel Gupta)
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To earn an opportunity, steer into the concerns
In Backable, Suneel Gupta recalls a time when he was seeking funding for his startup Rise. He’d recently met Reid Hoffman and sought his advice: When Rise was being rejected by investors, Hoffman shared one of the keys to his success in the pitch room. “There will be one to three issues that are potentially…