Category: Expectations
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Scrap paper is powerful because it’s friendly
Many of us are comfortable singing in the shower, humming a song at the office, or doing karaoke with friends. Singing comes naturally—you want to sing—because the conditions make it so. When you consider performing a song on stage, in front of an audience, the conditions change. It wouldn’t feel so natural to do that…
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Talking about your goals is a tradeoff
Sometimes, people ask me if discussing your goals with other people is a good idea. I think it’s a tradeoff: There’s a theory that the more you talk about your goal with other people, the more your brain feels like it’s achieved it already. Your ego feels good, which actually drains it of motivation. Another…
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Be curious, not judgmental
Being judgmental is useful for doing difficult things. (Sanctimonious, self-righteous, prideful, are all variations of what I mean by being judgmental.) When you believe in a statement that’s judgmental, it gives you the energy you need to stick with letting go of bad habits, persisting in a challenging situation, or breaking through a self-limiting belief…