Category: Expectations
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Respond to mistakes with guilt and gratitude
When someone points out or fixes a mistake you made, you can decide to respond with guilt for making the mistake in the first place, or gratitude for their support. Guilt helps you create change. It also makes sure you don’t make the same mistake again. Once you have made the change, you don’t need…
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Create space for the things you want, so they can find you
What do you want more of in your life? Have you created space and time for it? It’s easy and comfortable to fill spaces with things you’re familiar with or good at. It’s difficult and uncomfortable to create space for the things you want, especially when they’re unfamiliar. If you’ve been yearning to travel, you…
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Giving thanks
In the days when most people used to farm, the end of the harvest called for a celebration. One can imagine families finally feeling a sense of certainty—knowing how much food they produced, and the relief that it would be enough to survive the winter—and wanting to express gratitude for making it another year around…
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It was supposed to rain
The weather forecast said there would be rain today. You listened to the forecast, grumbled about it being on a weekend, and planned to do something indoors—maybe not even venture outdoors. When you peeked outside the window, the sun was shining and the sky was clear blue. So you stepped outside with an umbrella, just…
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Collect underpants → ??? → Profit: A guide to filling in the question marks in your plans
There’s a TV trope called the Missing Steps Plan (it’s also an internet meme). Here’s an example from a South Park episode, which involves gnomes stealing underpants: We are all missing steps in our wishes and dreams. The question is to what degree. For example, someone who hasn’t cooked and wants to cook might have…
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Do things that make you feel proud of yourself
You probably won’t feel proud of binge watching a TV show. You’ll almost certainly feel proud when you do one of these things: Make progress towards your goals. The greater the reluctance you feel before, the more pride you’ll feel after. Write or speak something from the heart. Put it out there. Take a small…