The two wolves

Nearly a decade ago, I shared a parable at Lifehacker:

The native american grandfather tells his grandson that there are two wolves inside of him, fighting for control. One wolf, is the wolf of love, peace, and kindness. The other wolf is a wolf of greed, hatred, and corruption. 

The grandson asks, “Which wolf will win?”

The grandfather replies, “Whichever wolf I feed.”

My friend Peter recently highlighted this parable, writing that by letting low moments linger and fester—or by taking time intended for rest and using it to work—he was making moves out of fear, insecurity, and paranoia. While he may have looked effective or productive, he had inadvertently fed the wrong wolf.

He spent years learning to feed the right wolf. He even journaled about some of it. Perhaps the most important thing he wrote, “Feeding the right wolf isn’t a one-time deal. It’s on-going and it takes deliberate effort.” The right wolf needs food every day. You feed them by taking good care of yourself, resting, and coping well.

(It also helps when you give the wrong wolf less food. You can start by limiting exposure to news, social media, and people who leave you feeling tired and drained.)

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