Category: Turning Stories
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Share your reminders to yourself
If a lesson was important enough for you to remind yourself about, there’s a good chance it will be useful for other people too. A lesson is particularly helpful when you share the story that led you to learn the lesson. People remember stories. What’s obvious to you isn’t obvious to everyone else. Publish your…
Herbert Lui
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Maybe it’s not you
A good friend of mine has worked tenures at several great tech companies. Their professional success was never surprising to me; I’d known them for years, and I knew any team would be lucky to have them. Still, when tech companies started laying people off—by the tens of thousands—they got caught in two of them,…
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The first step to get out of a hole is to stop digging
In the physical world, it’s very clear when you’re digging yourself into a hole. Kids do that when they’re playing. In the financial or emotional world, it’s less clear, and you can live in denial for a long time. There are signs, though. You will notice you’re borrowing from tomorrow to pay for today and…
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How to compete with geniuses
You don’t compete with geniuses by trying to outsmart them. That won’t work. You compete with them by coming together with your team (which could be official teammates like co-workers, or unofficial teammates like friends and acquaintances). You share ideas and synthesize new ones together. You learn to rely on one another. You apologize when…
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Survival of the most flexible
Change happens faster and faster. So do new opportunities and challenges. If you’re flexible enough to adapt to these changes, you’ll gain an advantage. For example, if you’re able to quickly move to a new city for a better work opportunity, while your equally smart peers are tied down to a house they need to…
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Finding help is a skill worth mastering
Everybody needs help. Asking for help can feel difficult though. You might worry about coming off as needy, or as an imposition. There’s a craft to finding help, and it’s worth mastering. Any improvement at it is worth being proud of. Your style is unique; everybody has a different comfort level with how public they…
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Good project management is about getting ahead of opportunities and problems
One useful way to think about project management involves anticipation. You can consider different scenarios and make plans for how to handle them. Goals and visions can serve as anchors for these scenarios. So can unplanned opportunities that pop up, and problems that you can foresee. For example, a friend of mine leading a publicity…
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The right and wrong times to burn the boats
When you’re in a good position, there are multiple ways for you to win. When you’re in a bad position, there’s only one way for you to win, and it requires some divine intervention. This analogy is balanced out by ancient wisdom: The night before a critical battle, an army’s general ordered them to burn…
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Three particularly resonant posts
A few of the recent posts here have resonated with me, possibly because I have been travelling: You can always choose to be calm: Even if someone’s intentions are to insult you, or have fun at your expense, you can choose to respond in a different way. Impress as few people as possible: I’ve used…
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Impress as few people as possible
“What do they think about me?” is a useful question. It’s best only when you consider it for a few people in your life. For example, your spouse, your best friend, a family member. As you meet more people, you can trust yourself to be respectful, civil, and collaborative. That doesn’t mean you need to…
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