Advice for high performers

If you’ve been recognized as a high performer by someone, you’ll probably need to learn different things than everyone else. 

For example, while other people can let go of their work very easily, you may have trouble doing that; you can’t stop thinking about it when you get home. This might be fine in your youth, until you experience trouble. Maybe you can’t relax, or wake up incessantly thinking about work.

Maybe others enjoy spending their money, and your strength is in saving; so much so that you can’t actually bring yourself to spend the money it would take to make you happy. You experience a block that many other people will not understand.

If you have a competitive drive, you may need to learn how to play just to have fun.

Perhaps you have a great capacity for planning, though that also leads you to worry. The fear is actually what enables you to conduct premortems and avoid problems and pains you’d otherwise experience. You need to learn to be more spontaneous, to live more in the present, and to follow your intuition.

A final example: you’ve been so adamant on pushing yourself outside of your comfort zone that you refuse to settle into a comfortable routine. You’re constantly seeking discomfort. That also means you’re constantly experiencing stress; your muscles are tense, you’re constantly excitable, and you look for problems when there aren’t any to solve.

The same beliefs that lead you to distinguish yourself from other people means you need to learn different things from others as well. All of this advice—to let go of your work, to spend money, to find your comfort—is probably the opposite of what most people need to hear, and yet would really apply to you.

You need to stop following advice for the masses, and find advice specifically for you.

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